Blame

Why is it when things aren’t going to plan and not going the way we want it go we start blaming (Pointing the bone) towards other people?   Why is it?  Or should I say, the shift of blame is changed and is pointed towards others and for everything – you know what I’m saying “the cat had kittens”, “ the milk got split”, “the mud got brought onto the carpet” etc. etc. the list goes on and on, as does the blame. 

Even though you were the source and the fault should have been on you on the first place – you should have looked in the mirror “if the shoe fits”

Why do we shift blame? 

Why don’t we look at problems or stress head on and deal with it cause as it appears and take them blow by blow, as it happens, instead of shifting it sideways, when we know the consequences and how it will cause heartache or failure or grief.

We deal with these things every day of our lives.  “How we live our days is how we live our lives” quote by Annie Dillard.  If our days are stressed, chaotic, unfocused and unsatisfying, at the end of the year (and at the end of life) we tend to look back and wonder, "What happened?" On the other hand, if we make sure each day contains some joy, some gratitude, a bit of organisation and purpose, some honest work and a bit of fun, I'm convinced our lives will reflect the same.

It’s time for a change and take life by the horns and stop the blame game and reaffirm your values, beliefs, goals and priorities.

Written by Sue Leslight